relationships Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life: Ellie

19:42  26 october  2017
19:42  26 october  2017 Source:   Toronto Star

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Working parents find it hard to make time for each other under pressures of work, kids and tension in the marriage.

Life : Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life : Ellie . Working parents find it hard to make time for each other under pressures of work, kids and tension in the marriage. News.


My husband of 10 years and I both have demanding professional jobs.

At the end of the day, when we’re with our school-age children at home, we’re equally tired but supposedly equally involved in getting them to activities, overseeing homework, music education, etc.

The difference is that he’s harsher, I’m more forgiving. He lashes out verbally (never physically) while I have gentler reactions.

Also, he gets fed up when a parent-child problem isn’t immediately resolved, so he will stalk off or immerse himself in something else, leaving me to clean up the mess.

We love each other, but we fight a lot. We’re both often tired and sex is the first thing to go.

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Life : Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life : Ellie . Working parents find it hard to make time for each other under pressures of work, kids and tension in the marriage.

Life : Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life : Ellie . Working parents find it hard to make time for each other under pressures of work, kids and tension in the marriage. News.

We recapture it when we have the odd few hours alone, if grandparents take the kids out and we don’t have other demands in the house or for work.

We end up having sex about once a month.

Our friends with jobs and kids joke about having similar pressures, and no time for sex.

But are we slowly coming apart as a couple? What should we do?

Worried

You’ve just made a start at confronting the possibilities ahead.

Reader needs to seize opportunities for relaxed family-time, where fun for all is the main goal, says Ellie. © Richard Lautens Reader needs to seize opportunities for relaxed family-time, where fun for all is the main goal, says Ellie.

By recognizing what binds you two — love, children, ambition — and what divides you — different reactions, overwork, fatigue — you can plan toward improvements.

First, examine whether you’re overscheduling the kids and thus yourselves, too.

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But they stress that it will take weeks to mine the documents for potentially new and interesting information. Life : Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life : Ellie .

Not every exposure — sports, music, art, dance — has to be done in every segment of each year.

Then, rethink anything in your own work schedule that you can adjust. For example, have you added on too many extra projects, presentations, etc.?

Seize opportunities for relaxed family-time . . . a hike, picnic, movie outing, where fun for all is the main goal.

Besides those grandparent moments for time alone, create some house rules toward planned privacy after the kids go to bed.

Use the standby tricks of all busy couples — shower sex, mutual “massages” with the bedroom door closed, a sleepover at grandparents’ house.

Reader’s Commentary: Regarding the man coping with his wife’s serious health issues (Oct. 3):

“Twenty years ago, I developed a progressively worse chronic pain condition.

“I ended up leaving a great job at age 53. With the advice of a wonderfully compassionate pain specialist, I determined that not only one person has a serious health issue. The family does.

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Life : Busy schedule is taking a toll on our sex life : Ellie . Working parents find it hard to make time for each other under pressures of work, kids and tension in the marriage. News.

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“For the sufferer, it’s essential that the physical and emotional health of the partner is equally as important.

“At 71 now, my condition is still chronic and deepens as I age. It becomes more important that my partner has a life of her own. She benefits and I gain.

“She accompanied our eldest daughter and family to the United Kingdom last year. A future trip overseas is planned.

“She twice-weekly pursues her musical passion. (We were both musicians when we married, 48 years ago). A bedroom has been converted into a costume design and sewing studio.

“I created an art studio to paint landscapes.

“My partner became my producer and some of my art income feeds her travel fund.

“We’re partners, both for the good and not so good. Her quality of life helps me forge a new direction.

“The best thing for a strained marriage is to become a strengthened partnership.

“It’s a renewal of why the partnership began, and the freedom that open and frank dialogue can provide.

“A partner needs to know that someone experiencing chronic pain including sleep loss, is occupied daily with surviving and fighting potential depression associated with persistent pain.”

Tip of the day

Busy working parents can find ways to make time for sex through creativity and mutual planning.

Read Ellie Monday to Saturday. Email ellie@thestar.ca or visit her website, ellieadvice.com . Follow @ellieadvice.

My wife and I stopped having sex and I’m frustrated: Ellie .
I love my wife and always enjoy sex, but it is my biggest problem in our marriage. She’s 65 and I’m 75, working 20 to 35 hours a week. Even when my wife was in her 30s, we had sex once a month. She’s still sexually appealing to me. Later in our life, sex completely disappeared.When I confronted her or talked about it, she said that sex isn’t important to her, but I can find a sex therapist and make all the arrangements and she’ll come along. I’ve consoled myself with porn, which of course isn’t the same. I’m frustrated. I thought it was our problem, not mine.

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